Asalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu ladies
I can’t believe its almost the end of October! We’ve been at our usual school routine for almost six weeks now and time has flown!
And although I thoroughly enjoy our homeschool journey there are times it can get tough. Which brings me to the subject of this post.
You see, no matter how much we do enjoy our journeys, we are still human and are prone to days that don’t go as planned. And despite having meal planned for the week, waking up to a clean house and lessons laid out on the dining table (go Super Mum!), it can take something mundane and you and you get irritated-fast!
So how do we come with days we become irritable? Especially when these sorts of days keep on cropping up and start to affect the overall atmosphere of our home.
I know the term ‘self care’ is often thrown out their at us Mothers when we seem to be having a bad day, but I’d like to delve a little further.
So instead of the term self-care, I propose ‘listen to yourself’.
Why do I say that? Because for me ‘ self-care’ isn’t enough. That one night ‘off’ to read a book whilst putting on a face-mask although can help temporarily, doesn’t always get to the root cause. It allows you to pause and reflect when alone but not so much when you need it the most – when your with your children.
See difficult days are not related so much to the trigger i.e your toddler interrupting read aloud time again and again but more so when you haven’t paused to listen to what YOU need. Like I mentioned on a recent Instagram post, as homeschool Moms we get so caught up in making learning a ‘freeing’ experience for our children, we somehow shackle ourselves. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
So take some time out and listen to yourself.
Did you eat breakfast or did you only plate up for the kids?
Did you get a good nights sleep or were you last to sleep and first to rise?
Did you enjoy the lesson you taught today or did the over-planning tire you and reduce it to a checklist box to get done?
Do you have enough gaps in your day to prolong positive learning opportunities or are extracurricular activities making life rigid?
Are you rushing your salaah to get started on dinner, thus losing the beautiful essence of khushoo?
Are you yourself connecting with the Qu’ran, beyond revising with your children?
Is your intention to teach your children revisited often or has it gone rusty therefore you’ve lost your way?
Ask yourself what is bothering you. Listen intently and carefully.
It could be something as simple as you’re hungry to something much deeper like feeling a dip in your emaan. Once you’ve pinpointed the root cause of your irritability, you can work on solutions and thus avoid being an irritated Mama.
As I say, it’s not the morning basket that makes the morning pretty; it’s you.