Asalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu ladies, how are you this fine Sunday morning?
As you know, I decided to make a short series discussing different phases/stages we as homeschool moms go through, and even moms in general. Since we covered the ‘apprehensive’ homeschool mom last week, I thought it would be a good idea to move to the other side of the spectrum today and discuss the ‘happy’ homeschool mom.
Needless to say this is a wonderful phase to be in, and we all hope and pray that this phase never stops!
And this is something every Mom can relate to. For you may have just started homeschooling, and your heart is bursting with joy knowing that you made the right decision for you and your family. Or you may be a veteran homeschool mom, whose children are much older now and the fruits of your labour are ripening before your eyes. Whatever the case may be, its wonderful seeing your children thrive and your homeschool blossom, alhamdulillah.
Thus, it’s important to recognise that the ability and opportunity to teach our children is certainly a blessing from Allah Azzawajal, and this blessing should not be taken for granted. Hence this post is more of a reminder to myself first and foremost and to all my fellow mamas.
It’s equally important to point out that although these things are something we should acknowledge when we are in this stage, they also are a means of becoming ‘happy’ in the first place.
So let’s ensure that we remind ourselves and each to cherish this blessing we have and perhaps implement some of the following things…
I’ve mentioned this before in several other posts and I’ll mention it again for a reason. See, sometimes its easy to fall into the trap of reminding ourselves of our intentions when things are a little rough, and we need a boost to keep on going. But it’s important to acknowledge and renew our intentions in time of ease too, not just in times of difficulty. So take a moment to pause, and renew your intentions for raising your children. Yes, its a means of bonding with our children and creating memories but there’s more to it than that. The wider purpose of raising our children to be mumins, pillars of the Ummah and hopefully a sadaqah for us should be at the forefront of our minds at all times.
SubhanAllah, I cannot emphasise this enough! Motherhood and educating our children is an enormous task and responsibility, none of which would be possible without Allahs mercy upon us. So it’s paramount that we ask Allah to keep us sincere and humble in our homeschool journeys and gives us the tawfiq to raise our children upon the Qu’ran and Sunnah.
Abū Hurayrah ( رضي الله عنه ) that the prophet ( صلّى الله عليه وسلّم ) said:
“Whoever would like Allah to answer him during hardships and difficulties then let him increase in supplication during times of wellbeing.” [Tirmidhi]
It’s also important to acknowledge that one of the characteristics of having istiqamah is to be consistent in our deeds so its essential we make dua for this too.
Abu Hurayrah reported: The Messenger of Allah (صلّى الله عليه وسلّم ) said, “Take up good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those done regularly even if they are few.” (Ibn Mājah)
Alhamdulillah your feeling uplifted, so why not take the opportunity and reach out to others? Anything from a few words of encouragement, sharing ideas, helping with planning and house organisation really go a long way. Allah Azzawajal is in the aid of a person who aids his brother, so let us grasp this opportunity and hold hands with one another in any way we can. When we look to the example of the Prophet Sallahu alayhi wasalam and the noble companions, we find that they were always looking for opportunities to help others, but sometimes as mothers, we feel like our opportunities are limited. But I remind myself and you, my dearest homeschool mama, that a little goes a long way. Share your blessings in any way you can, for truly we are in the ones in need.
“O My slaves, you will not attain harm in Me so as to harm Me, and you will not attain benefit in Me so as to benefit Me; O My slaves, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you to be as pious as the most pious heart of any one man of you, that will not increase My Kingdom in anything; O my slaves, were the first of you and last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you to be as wicked as the most wicked heart of any one man of you, that will not decrease My Kingdom in anything; O My slaves, it is but your deeds that I reckon up for you and I recompense you for. So let him who finds good praise Allaah and let him who finds other than that blame no one but himself.”[Saheeh Muslim]